There is no rule that states that any wedding has to cost the couple and their family an arm and a leg...in fact, there is nothing and no law stating that it even has to be a traditional event !
I am not one for the idea that everything in the business of marryin' folks is static, that it is all set in stone and has to be boring and reverent and serene. Most of the people for whom I have officiated their wedding all say the same thing - mine are celebratory rather than traditional affairs. Seeing as how the world has somehow gone from doing only the "til death do ye part" to the other side, to the other extreme, where some places are legally recognizing LGBT unions as actual marriages (I see them this way, by the way...Love knows no color or gender...as it should be...damned State of California...come on, guys !! Lighten Up! It's just LOVE!! Duh!), I thought that there should be a post that is about having a great wedding that is more a party and that won't cost an arm, a leg or that first born of the first born child.
Let's do some thinkin', shall we?
You can save a whole lot of time and patience if you combine your event. When you combine the ceremony AND the reception, meaning that rather than walking the aisle of some big fat imposing church, have yourself a merry little nuptial and do it up cheap-ass style...by having your minister (hint hint) do the ceremony in the place the reception is to be held AND rather than having your guests sit, they surround the couple...like a tribal thing...you're smart...I'm sure you can envision what I am talking about. For real...you do NOT have to do anything in a manner that is not your style and not the style that is someone else's.
Yup, I said it, now deal with it. There is not one thing essentially wrong with doing this...this backyard party style wedding...I do them ALL THE TIME.
My thought about this is that you can have the most lovely bridal gown, along with the not-so-lovely bridesmaids dresses, and you can rent a big fat church, hire a stuffy minister, hire a really BAD caterer who will treat your guests like jerks, a bartender who is only there for the tips and a DJ who plays old 80's hip hop...
...and you can end up being very unhappy with your ceremony.
Or, you can do both at the same time, save the money you would spend on all those things that are only ceremony related, get yourselves hitched in what I have lovingly referred to and will now use as an example as being the greatest phenomena known to the marrying cheap-asses of the world....yup...backyard party style weddings...and not the kind that suck, not the kind that is potluck - no, no!! We are not going THAT cheap...even I have my standards haha! I think you can totally understand what I am saying!
HOWEVER...
...thinking in terms of having a totally awesome time at your own shin-dig , you want to be able to relax, and you want your guests to have fun, and more than anything, you want people to recall it as being a great time. IF this is what you are after, then all you really need to do is think beyond the Sanctuary walls (and believe me there are likely not a lot of folks who would tell you differently about how much I LOVE ANY Sanctuary...hey...me and Spirit have to meet at her house sometime, you know...just sayin'). By this I mean that you have got to think outside the box and you have got to shed the idea that what was, as far as ceremonies and nuptials in general go, no longer is.
And what is in its place, or at least in my neck of the woods, are those nuptials which combine the ceremony with the reception. Yes...you read that correctly - combine the ceremony with the reception by holding the ceremony in the place where you intend to party AFTER the ceremony. It is not so odd, and is not something that has never been done. It is just something that not a lot of people in the industry cares to think about because the truth is that marrying and getting married is big business. My thought is that you can do as great a job at planning an actual Wedding Party that will not call for your guests to wear anything that was bought off of a rack and instead allows them to come to a backyard barbecue complete with bubble machine and bounce house ...
It's all in how you think of things, really...do you want to throw an overpriced gala affair that everyone will be talking about as having been said such thing...or...do you want an affordable wedding where not only were you able to hang with your guests, but was a celebration that was both kid and groom/guy friendly?
Seems like a pretty easy answer to me...
Just sayin'!
Happy Nuttiness
Reverend Roxie
Reverend Roxanne K. Cottell is a Southern California Native with Hawaiian Roots and a Penchant for all things hula and all things rock and roll. If what you are looking for is a whole lot of fun and not a lot of drama for you and your guests, Rev. Roxie and her Minions can help you come up with the most affordable wedding that you can all think of...and she can even get an actual ROCK BAND to your nuptials that DOESN'T SUCK !!! You can hit her up by sending an email to her. Please visit her website...and of course - there is a page in her site that is all about AFFORDABLE WEDDINGS THAT DO NOT SUCK !
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